Most Sensitive Spots & More

Most Sensitive Spots & More

To spit or swallow

I enjoy giving oral sex to my boyfriend but I hate swallowing. I want to please him but he says it feels better when I swallow. Why is that? Does it really feel any different than when I spit? What should I do?
~Kristy

Kristy,

The reason your boyfriend wants you to swallow is because of the level of acceptance associated with you swallowing his ejaculate. If he sees you swallowing, he will feel like you enjoy going down on him and you're not just doing it to make him happy. Although this will not change the physical feel of the orgasm, it will affect him on a mental level. It is also visually arousing for the man to watch a woman swallow something that came out of him.

I always advise people not to do things they don't enjoy. Instead of spitting right away, which signals to your boyfriend that you find it disgusting, let it be in your mouth for a few seconds. Let it erotically drip out of your mouth, or head over to the bathroom and dispose of it. Whatever you do, don't spit it out of your mouth as if it were poison.

Another way to work it out is to have your man ejaculate somewhere else on your body. If he sees how much you enjoy that, he will begin to enjoy that more than you swallowing. Try to keep an open mind and have a good attitude about it. That will lead to pleasures other than swallowing.

Male sensitivity

What is the most sensitive part on a man's body? Our first anniversary is coming up next week and I want to do something to drive my boyfriend crazy!
~Amy

Amy,

Ask your boyfriend what he really likes and watch his reactions to everything you do to him in bed. Giving him what he enjoys might be more important than knowing where his most sensitive spots are.

To answer your question simply; the place with the highest density of nerve endings on a man's body is called the frenulum. The frenulum is found on the underside of the penis, just behind the head. Approach this area with caution, as many men report that it is so sensitive that they don't enjoy too much direct stimulation. Most men prefer a gentle lick or tap.

If you really want to please your boyfriend, pay close attention to his reactions and have him tell you or show you what he wants. The fact that you care so much and are trying so hard to please him will go a long way.

Saying I love you

I've been dating this woman for three months, and I told her last week that I have fallen in love with her. Her response was far from what I expected. She told me that she would like to continue as friends and not more than that. According to her, she doesn't have strong enough feelings to accept me as a lover, and cannot be with me if my feelings have gone that far. She says she wants to stay close friends and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. What should I do? Should I wait around and hope she changes her mind or let her get away this easily?
~Danny

Danny,

I think you've done all that you can. She obviously loved your attention and to her, you were a challenge. Now that she knows you have fallen in love with her, the challenge is gone. It could also be that she is not ready for this type of commitment and got scared off.

Pursue other friendships that may turn into something more. I don't think she is going to accept you as a lover anytime soon, so you shouldn't hesitate to pursue others in order to fulfill your needs. Also, she may miss the attention you gave her if you move on, so who knows what may happen in the future. What I can tell you is that it would be a waste of your time to hang around hoping she will reconsider.

Gold diggers

I am 36 years old. I own my own business, I live alone and I am financially secure. I think I have met the right woman for me, except for a few things. She has a job, but lives with her parents, has no car and claims she is broke and in debt. I usually pay for our dates, which I don't mind. She never wants to discuss her financial situation. My worry is that if we live together, I will be paying for everything. I don't want her freeloading off me. What do you think?
~Paulie

Paulie,

While I always say not to judge people based on material things such as money, this is different. If she still lives with her parents, has no car and still can't manage her expenses, something is wrong. Be wary of a problem with credit card spending, gambling or drugs. She will be nothing but a financial burden to you. She needs to get her act together and you should stay away until she does.

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10 Ways To Be A More Manly Man

10 Ways To Be A More Manly Man

Well men, I've asked a variety of women about the ten best characteristics that makes a man more manly and a pattern started to emerge. There is really quite an array of characteristics that can define manliness but, as every man's "taste" in women is different, so are women's "tastes" in men.

1. Confidence-Honestly, confidence is number one for a reason. Girls generally don't think men are manly if they don't have any confidence and even guys that are total dweebs, in many cases, can still attract gals by displaying this characteristic. Ways that guys can better gain and have confidence is by being happy about who you are and just being yourself (as cheesy as it sounds).
2. Sense of Humor-Girls just downright tend to think funny guys are generally more masculine, a lot more masculine then us guys would think, mind you. Girls like to be entertained by cute, funny guys so by having some funny characteristics, girls may think you're masculine even if you've never hit the weight room in you're life.
3. Showering/Smell-OK, you've gotta smell good for the ladies, or things just won't work out. If the first or second thing a girl notices about you is your stench, then all is lost. By showering everyday, wearing some deodorant, etc., you can not lose masculinity, unless that girl likes your bodily odor.
4. Exercise-Girls generally think guys that work out, up to a point, are more masculine. Running and swimming usually doesn't cut it (sorry Michael Phelps), but this is a category that girls generally don't give to big of a hoot about. Some girls liked a ripped upper body and others don't so you're best bet really is to just be yourself and do occasional exercise. Confidence can make up for this area in leaps and bounds sometimes.
5. Appearance-The facial expression and appearance of a guy is a big determining factor of whether a guy looks "masculine" or not. Honestly, this characteristic varies even more then the last, catering to each individual girl. Some common ways to look more manly don't have to include looks that are tough or display amazing strength, but smiling and being happy are great for many occasions.
6. Respectful-This is one of the most important skills to learn and use to be more manly. A real man respects women and treats them as princesses, and yes, most women would like the opposite sex to view and treat them as such. Southern hospitality is one of the most manly characteristics a guy can display at times, even if its just opening a door for a girl. Seriously, respect is utterly important and shouldn't have to be built up but most guys need to learn it, sadly.
7. Goal Oriented-A lot of women don't like to be with guys that aren't going anywhere. Having goals and sticking, moderately, to them makes a girl feel more secure and think more seriously about a guy. Again, some girls like to live on the edge and don't really care, but a lot of women do. Having goals generally can help a guy look more masculine.
8. Listening Skills-Right up with respect, truly listening to women is a key to not only trivial things like looking masculine, but listening to women can save marriages, help gain lasting bonds and friendships, and can help you find the right girl for you. Listening to a woman shows her you care and will sacrifice some time to totally devote yourself to what she thinks and has to say. Every woman I know says that this characteristic is important.
9. Hobbies-Once again, girls tend to like guys that are going somewhere in life and by "showing off" with hobbies, girls can get acquainted with and curious of guys. Some hobbies, obviously, are more attractive to some kind of women then others, but be yourself with what you do and the right girl will come along.
10. Sensitivity-Yes, having some amount of sensitivity makes men appear masculine to most women. We're not talking about crying all the way through a movie, but showing empathy and maybe tears once in a while (shock!). Overdoing it isn't good, but this is really a characteristic that a person can only really be himself about.

In the end, being masculine is mostly about being yourself and being happy about it. Even if you think you look like a loser doing something, the girl you're after might think you're cute doing it, especially if done with confidence. Listen, listen, listen to what a girl has to say and respect her, you can't go wrong with that. Those are 10 ways to be a more manly man.

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