Player Strategy : From Seafood to Sex

Player Strategy : From Seafood to Sex

How To Get Her From The Table To The Bed...

There’s always a need for timing and tact when attempting to get a woman into bed. All women are different, but for the most part there are several approaches that will typically result in success -- provided you are patient, observant and talented in the intimate arts.

So, how do you make the transition from dinner to bed? This is an especially big challenge because most ladies have a variety of requirements, beyond holding their attention, that must be met before they even consider sharing themselves, and even the best of men aren’t mind readers. Therefore, we have to examine a few general options that could potentially pertain to a large number of presumably receptive females. It’s about preparing in advance, maintaining a certain amount of subtlety and knowing when the time is right to make the final move. To make the transition from dinner to bed is a series of steps, just like anything else in this crazy game -- but how to begin?

Take her to a sensual dinner

No woman can resist the allure of a perfectly planned evening, punctuated by excellent food and even better company. But it goes beyond merely paying her a few carefully worded compliments, holding doors and pulling out her chair. It’s about preparing for the ultimate goal, which means you should put an emphasis on the atmosphere; leave her suspended between appreciative pleasure and excited surprise. This should be like no other meal she’s ever experienced.

You will make it unique by focusing on her senses; the sights and smells of her surroundings should place her in a state of loving receptivity, and this requires precise attention to detail: the lighting, the manner in which the courses are served and, certainly, the courses themselves. You will eat well, but light -- nobody is feeling amorous when stuffed. Perhaps a bit of sushi or an arrangement of original appetizers will be both exotic and strangely enticing.

Make an evening of it

Regardless of your confidence, effort is always required. These days, it seems as if guys think they can get away with a standard dinner at a mediocre chain restaurant, a quick trip to the mall and a “Man, you look hot tonight” comment. Most women are sick of this lax approach to a romantic, sensual evening. And be original, for crying out loud. Everyone does the dinner-and-movie bit, so how about taking her to the opera instead? Dressing up is something women tend to enjoy and whether you do or not, it doesn’t change the fact that formal wear does indeed make us look and feel better about ourselves.

If not the theater or opera, perhaps a gallery opening or a moonlit walk in the park, or maybe it can be more casual; maybe you can return to your place and attempt to make a dessert together. The bottom line is that effort will always be rewarded, helping you make the transition from dinner to bed, and an hour or two of doing the mundane and expected doesn’t qualify.

Stop for a nightcap

So, you’ve managed the dinner and she’s enjoying herself immensely. But you get the feeling that in order to maintain -- and perhaps even enhance -- her amorous feelings toward you, it’s best to keep her warm. Usually, the best way to accomplish this is to stop for a nightcap toward the end of the evening. A club or bar isn’t your target, though; those places are designed for singles and offer nothing in the way of intimacy. You already have your girl; you just want to sit for a bit, talk and take in a cocktail or two in order to keep her in the correct frame of mind.

This isn’t about getting her drunk, because if she is, the entire idea of a beautiful evening together flies directly out the window. This is merely about the aforementioned warmth; it’s about making her pupils dilate just a tad and ensuring that when you return home, the bed is a guaranteed destination.

Stop on the couch

Many men don’t quite realize that foreplay actually should begin outside the bedroom. Women appreciate a prequel, a hint of what is to come; it excites them and if done correctly, a receptive lady’s eyes will glaze over with lust before you get anywhere near the bedroom.

The couch allows you to have a nice, quiet, intimate conversation after dinner. When she speaks, she knows she has your full attention -- which is a huge turn-on for her to begin with -- and after several humorous anecdotes and a few hesitant touches by both parties, things can escalate easily from there. Just make sure you do move from the couch to the bed. Not only is it far more comfortable, but it seems to boost the woman’s confidence level. Just going at it out there on the couch lends the experience a campy, almost porn-like atmosphere, which doesn’t always work for a first-time encounter.

tricks of the trade

There’s no real “trick” to make the transition from dinner to bed. Sometimes, it may feel like trying to solve the puzzle before the moment of truth and all women are indeed different. But in reality, the majority will respond to a carefully designed evening that elicits trust, confidence and, of course, those innate female drives to feel a man’s touch.

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