Most Sensitive Spots & More

Most Sensitive Spots & More

To spit or swallow

I enjoy giving oral sex to my boyfriend but I hate swallowing. I want to please him but he says it feels better when I swallow. Why is that? Does it really feel any different than when I spit? What should I do?
~Kristy

Kristy,

The reason your boyfriend wants you to swallow is because of the level of acceptance associated with you swallowing his ejaculate. If he sees you swallowing, he will feel like you enjoy going down on him and you're not just doing it to make him happy. Although this will not change the physical feel of the orgasm, it will affect him on a mental level. It is also visually arousing for the man to watch a woman swallow something that came out of him.

I always advise people not to do things they don't enjoy. Instead of spitting right away, which signals to your boyfriend that you find it disgusting, let it be in your mouth for a few seconds. Let it erotically drip out of your mouth, or head over to the bathroom and dispose of it. Whatever you do, don't spit it out of your mouth as if it were poison.

Another way to work it out is to have your man ejaculate somewhere else on your body. If he sees how much you enjoy that, he will begin to enjoy that more than you swallowing. Try to keep an open mind and have a good attitude about it. That will lead to pleasures other than swallowing.

Male sensitivity

What is the most sensitive part on a man's body? Our first anniversary is coming up next week and I want to do something to drive my boyfriend crazy!
~Amy

Amy,

Ask your boyfriend what he really likes and watch his reactions to everything you do to him in bed. Giving him what he enjoys might be more important than knowing where his most sensitive spots are.

To answer your question simply; the place with the highest density of nerve endings on a man's body is called the frenulum. The frenulum is found on the underside of the penis, just behind the head. Approach this area with caution, as many men report that it is so sensitive that they don't enjoy too much direct stimulation. Most men prefer a gentle lick or tap.

If you really want to please your boyfriend, pay close attention to his reactions and have him tell you or show you what he wants. The fact that you care so much and are trying so hard to please him will go a long way.

Saying I love you

I've been dating this woman for three months, and I told her last week that I have fallen in love with her. Her response was far from what I expected. She told me that she would like to continue as friends and not more than that. According to her, she doesn't have strong enough feelings to accept me as a lover, and cannot be with me if my feelings have gone that far. She says she wants to stay close friends and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. What should I do? Should I wait around and hope she changes her mind or let her get away this easily?
~Danny

Danny,

I think you've done all that you can. She obviously loved your attention and to her, you were a challenge. Now that she knows you have fallen in love with her, the challenge is gone. It could also be that she is not ready for this type of commitment and got scared off.

Pursue other friendships that may turn into something more. I don't think she is going to accept you as a lover anytime soon, so you shouldn't hesitate to pursue others in order to fulfill your needs. Also, she may miss the attention you gave her if you move on, so who knows what may happen in the future. What I can tell you is that it would be a waste of your time to hang around hoping she will reconsider.

Gold diggers

I am 36 years old. I own my own business, I live alone and I am financially secure. I think I have met the right woman for me, except for a few things. She has a job, but lives with her parents, has no car and claims she is broke and in debt. I usually pay for our dates, which I don't mind. She never wants to discuss her financial situation. My worry is that if we live together, I will be paying for everything. I don't want her freeloading off me. What do you think?
~Paulie

Paulie,

While I always say not to judge people based on material things such as money, this is different. If she still lives with her parents, has no car and still can't manage her expenses, something is wrong. Be wary of a problem with credit card spending, gambling or drugs. She will be nothing but a financial burden to you. She needs to get her act together and you should stay away until she does.